We are currently living in an “attention economy” where our attention is considered one of the (some say THE) most valuable assets. The reason our attention is so valuable is because it’s so scarce: no matter how much information is thrown our way, our ability to process it is limited. Scarcity creates value, in this case resulting in fierce competition between companies and individuals to capture our attention by any means necessary. This constant influx of information and stimulation has left us feeling distracted, fidgety, and with a diminishing ability to focus. Maybe worst of all, is the negative impact it has on our relationships. So, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day (Galentine’s Day if you prefer), we’ve put together a few ideas for how to let go of distractions and give your love(s) the attention they deserve.
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Start with your phone. It’s one of the biggest tools of mass diversion ever invented. Agree on an amount of time where you and whomever you’re with will not look at your phones. Best to turn them off and put them in another room. If you’re serious about breaking your phone addiction, try switching your settings to greyscale - it’s a game changer.
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Try an eye gazing meditation. It can definitely feel weird in the beginning, but if you stick with it, the discomfort will give way to a sense of connection. This is a great meditation for cultivating focus - you can’t look away without getting caught! It can be practiced one on one or with a group - you just need an even number of people.
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Practice partner yoga - it’s more interactive than taking a class side by side, and you absolutely must focus on each other. It’s also a great way to have fun and release happy hormones together. Look for classes at a studio near you, or if you’re more advanced and feel comfortable practicing without a teacher, there’s lots of tools online.